i've thought about this and the age gap matters less as you get older. for example, fem 18 - guy 36..... doesn't look good? but if the fem is 36 and the guy is 54, it seems better? take it further, the fem 54 and the guy 72, that seems even better? ok, is the fem is 72 and the guy 90, no one would say a thing!

but i think from the start of a relationship that it does depend on the two people involved. age would not matter to me, only if it bothered my partner then i would worry but only cos it bothered her. if a couple can relate to each other and be able to ignore the stupid remarks of others, then it'd work.