I know exactly where you're coming from (s'cuse the pun !!!) and yes I did use them for years actually - when I came off the pill. The reason being because my ex was in the navy - away for months on end and we knew we'd want to start a family at some point but as anyone knows who's been on the pill - they tell you to let your body settle down for at least 3 months before trying for a baby. My ex was only home on leave 6 weeks at a time so THAT was the reason we used condoms and the moment he came ashore it was all systems go.

He was actually 'able' to put them on before we got to the point of no return so no interruptions of putting lights on, scrambling around in the bedside drawer were necessary.

Once divorced, there was no point in me going back on the pill because the damn things made me put on weight and feel ill anyway - the coil made me bleed all the time. The cap was a pain to use as our bathroom was downstairs and anyone who has used one of those knows the palava of trying to put one of those in, in a hurry! - so I used to try and 'anticipate' and then you had to keep the damn thing in 8 hours afterwards. So in the end just used condoms as they were so much easier, no side effects, and less messy.

So I do know believe me, but it would really drive me nuts with the odd boyfriends I had after I was divorced that some of them just said no - simple - relationship ended. So I was curious to know what the big hang up is with them.

And Betty, I'm not preaching to anyone !!! As we're all mature sensible adults here and seemingly from the posts put in or what is said in the chat room - most are having an active sex life - that's why I asked the question.