You're first problem is giving too much any human being will keep on taking if you keep giving. You need to have a limit to how much you give. I don't entirely get what it is your giving but if giving too much is not working then try different approaches till you find out what is right for you. Men are never taught from a young age to do anything, it is amazing some of them can even walk upright. Females are bruoght up from a young age to learn how to look after males and the house. Neither scenario will completely suit either sex so if you are not getting what you want in your current situation you need to ask yourself a couple of questions. 1 - What am I doing now to get what I want?. 2 - What can I do to get what I want?. Hope this helps.