It is normal to want to get back with an ex because we all seek the easy option in life. The ex is someone you know and is comfortable. Seeking someone new is a change in your normal circumstances even if this was a bad experience and is something every person goes thruogh. You need to have a bit more self esteem in yourself and go for something you really want. The best way is to make a plan by writing down what it is you want and following it to the letter and not stop tiill you get it. Keep checking your plan on a regular basis to see what can be done. For my money anyone who makes a female get rid of a baby is not looking for a serious or long term relationship. Do you think he loved you or was capable of loving anyone or anything?.