The Woc Hug Club

[Mischa]

There has been an awful lot of tension within WoC at the moment, with a lot of arguments and bickering going on, both in the chat rooms and here in the forums. It would be nice to see things return to normal.

On another forum I'm on the same problem had been raging between a group of members and no matter what was said, no one could diffuse the situation and the reasons had become so random at that point that they did not qualify for bannings. Even the Admin team were at a loss quite how to deal with the problem.

Then one member came up with an idea, which I'd like to share with you guys here. I hope it works as well here as it has done there:

The WoC Hug Club

WoC members can come in here and give a Hug to anybody within WoC for whatever reason they want to, or even for no reason at all.


Hug Club Charter

Definition

A hug is a form of physical intimacy that generally involves closing or holding the arms around another person or group of persons. The hug is one of the most common human signs of love and affection, along with kissing.

Unlike some other forms of physical intimacy, it is practiced publicly and privately without stigma in many nations, religions and cultures, within families and also across all age groups and genders.

A hug can be romantic and may also be exchanged, as a sign of support and comfort. A hug can be a demonstration of affection and emotional warmth, sometimes arising out of joy, happiness or meeting someone.

Rules

1. Any member of WoC can join The WoC Hug Club.

2. A Hug can be given to any other member of WoC at any time of the day or night and for any reason.

3. There is no limit to the number of Hugs a member can give.

4. Members of The WoC Hug Club can even request Hugs at any time from other WoC members and for any reason.

5. Hugs can only be exchanged for Hugs, although they may come in different sizes!

6. All Hugs must fall within the definition as defined above. There is no such thing as a nasty Hug.

So come on everyone, join The WoC Hug Club wear your badge with pride and dish out the Hugs.

[sultry]

i come here for a laugh, with lets be honest, people i dont know and probably will never meet, and if i upset someone i say sorry if that doesnt work i dont worry about it...i think i ll stick with a good old fashioned sorry, works better for me in the few occassions i have upset someone lol

[starstruck]

Yep... I think its easier to just say sorry too

*goes back into the arcade *

[Mischa]

If you are having problems offering a hug to anyone perhaps reading this may help:

How To Forgive Others
The steps to Forgiveness are:

Step 1:
Write out what this person did to you as you perceived it. Don’t hold back.

Step 2:
Write out how you felt about these incidences. Make sure you really get into the feelings. Bring these feelings up, cry, yell, hit a pillow, make sure you totally get out the pain. By validating these feelings you will be able to take back your power.

Step 3:
Now switch your awareness to a bigger picture perspective. Write out:

“[Person’s name], even though I don’t condone your behaviour in any shape or form, I recognise on a soul level that you granted me the gift of understanding and healing my negative belief systems.

The positive belief systems you have helped me create are... [List the positive belief systems – eg: 'I choose to have firm and respectful boundaries. I deserve respect', 'I am lovable simply for being me', 'I deserve respect, decency and honesty; etc.]"

Step4:
Thank this person for granting you the gift of these new belief systems, release them and bless them on their journey.

[starstruck]

Originally Posted by Mischa

If you are having problems offering a hug to anyone perhaps reading this may help.

Im not having any problems offering anyone a hug thanx
I think youre losing it Mischa

[geogina]

its a nice idea mischa, just some people find
it hard to say sorry at the best of times never
mind give out hugs. just the way people are.
great idea though. keep it in mind, it may
work for something else. i just dont think
people in here are for it.

[Mischa]

Star - My quote was an open one - not directed toward any particular individual.

I have lost nothing. I have learned great deal over the last few days - one being a lesson in humility.

Geogina - I'd like to give you a hug for being an understanding person. I think your advice is right sadly - the folk on this forum are not at all like the people on this 'other' forum. The strange thing is that 'their' problems were much, much worse and the arguments really nasty, hurting quite a few individuals deeply with accusations that were totally untrue concerning a child's illness. I've never seen so much anger on any forum I've ever been on. But one member was able to calm everyone down - it worked.

It doesn't matter Geo truly.

[geogina]

aw sweetie i can see that you really care
but some people are really different. i can
imagine that the other place you go is really
different to here. and just because it worked
for one place it does not mean that it will
work for another. but it was a nice thought.
chin up though.

[lynx59]

hmmm good idea in theory, but plz dont teach ya grandmother how to suck eggs, we all know how to hug and what it represents, if someone wishes to offer or receive a hug then why have a forum to do so, do it there and then.

secondly if someone is giving you grief in the chatroom ..hey the iggy button is a great invention take a wild guess as to why its there...use it..it's not rocket science is it.

[pete8242]

that was far too long winded to read
im not interested in spreading emotional love
so stick your hug club up your arse
the purpose of the human race is to wage war and misery
i dont care about your other forums
in my opinion there is only this one
all other forums must be considered as "the enemy"
and if yoyu use other forums as well as coming on here
then you must be considered the enemy within