Help!

i need your help im still in love woth my ex! and he is the same woith me! i got pregnant by him and he made me get rid of the baby! what do i do as he wants me bk and i want to get bk with him! but i dunno after what he made me do

[loopychops]

Originally Posted by PiGlEt21

i need your help im still in love woth my ex! and he is the same woith me! i got pregnant by him and he made me get rid of the baby! what do i do as he wants me bk and i want to get bk with him! but i dunno after what he made me do

ask yourself , are you realy in love with him or just scared to move on ???
ask yourself , will you resent him for going through the termination ??? take time to think it through before you do anything hun !!! you to have a lot of talking to do before you do anything ,take it one day at a time for now ...xx

hi how could he make u get rid of the baby...it's ur body and u have the final decision...i don't think u should get back together unless u talk about what happened with the baby..cos it sounds like u wanted to keep it and as he didnt want it..it sounds like it may cause problems if u dont iron them out before u think of getting back together..good luck.

[shazzababie]

dont do it....btw...how could he MAKE u get rid of your baby....you had the final choice surely.....

[pete8242]

he wouldnt stick around when the best thing that can happen to a person happened
if the sh1t hits the fan with anything in your life illness etc he will be off
faster than a tramp with ringworm

[starstruck]

You got to sit down and think about what you are going back to, there are lots of nice men out there that wont make you do what he did!

[loopychops]

Originally Posted by pete8242

he wouldnt stick around when the best thing that can happen to a person happened
if the sh1t hits the fan with anything in your life illness etc he will be off
faster than a tramp with ringworm

hes got a point there , if he shot through once he will more than likely to do it again if history repeats and i can speek from experiance there - i was told to do the same thing 13 years ago and my reply to my sons dad was a flat out get feced and the csa still ent found him yet lol ,so i expect your better off with out him , or at least until he can grow up and take responceabilty for his actions

[pete8242]

test his seriousness for you
tell him youll get back with him but hes got to get the snip before he does
with the shoe on the other foot i doubt he will bring the subject of youz getting back together again

i think he was way out of order! move on i'd say, find a good guy. they do exist. i was in a position where a gf was pregnant and she decided that she didn't want the baby........ i never had a say in the matter. i moved on, i didn't need that **** in my life!

[coachoflife]

Originally Posted by PiGlEt21

i need your help im still in love woth my ex! and he is the same woith me! i got pregnant by him and he made me get rid of the baby! what do i do as he wants me bk and i want to get bk with him! but i dunno after what he made me do

It is normal to want to get back with an ex because we all seek the easy option in life. The ex is someone you know and is comfortable. Seeking someone new is a change in your normal circumstances even if this was a bad experience and is something every person goes thruogh. You need to have a bit more self esteem in yourself and go for something you really want. The best way is to make a plan by writing down what it is you want and following it to the letter and not stop tiill you get it. Keep checking your plan on a regular basis to see what can be done. For my money anyone who makes a female get rid of a baby is not looking for a serious or long term relationship. Do you think he loved you or was capable of loving anyone or anything?.