Punishing kids what do you do?

Would you agree that since the law was passed to stop children being smacked that disciplining a child has become virtually impossible for parents and also schools. I say schools here because corporal punishment i.e. the gym shoe or the cane was once used.

The times I've watched kids in town throw horrendous tantrums is on the increase. All parents can do is ignore they're little darlings and plod on with the shopping regardless. They just don't seem to have any control over their behaviour anymore.

Children it seems - and I'm talking right up to the teenage years have never had it so good. They know that nothing is going to happen to them so are rude, misbehave both at school and at home. They are now totally fearless and have no respect for their elders, people's property etc.

Not all kids are like this which is interesting. If there are those who can grow up and listen to when they are told to stop doing this or that, act courteously, do not throw hissy fits or turn into little thugs - what are these parents doing then that the others aren't?

What measurers do you take to get the message through to your kids that enough is enough?

[starstruck]

People nowaday's tend to blame the parent's
Have you seen the tv programme "Nanny 911"
The most patient,caring, tolerant,and loving parents are proud owner's of little brat's
There are parenting classes out there if they are needed,and instead of shouting at our kid's when they have a hissy fit,(and i for one am guilty of that) we just have to learn new way's of dealing with it!
It just takes time and patience (lot's of it) and hopefully things will turn out ok
All mine are grown up now, and they shout at me now!

Lol ah bless Star - they shout at you that's mean !!! Mine too are grown up but neither of them behaved the way I've witnessed in kids today. What the heck is up with these youngsters or is it all the rubbish chemicals in foodstuffs today making them hyper all the time.

You've got to admit though when you and I had our kids that just giving them 'that look' and saying NO that's enough - they'd do as they were told - today's kids are totally fearless of all authority and that's scary !!!

[pete8242]

in my opinion its because you leave bruises and cuts etc that you cant hit children
fortunately ( or not ) for my liitle baby which hatches in 5 weeks im trained in akido
which means i can inflict some of the worst pain on a person without actually leaving any physical trauma on the body

but i reckon if you just raise a child properly within a loving stable environment and teach them manners and right from wrong from dot one there will be no need to discipline your child to the point of A&E anyway

We're not talking major battering here Pete but I personally don't think the odd smack to be that bad. Not that I needed to smack my sons hardly ever. But on the rare occasion a slap on the bottom was enough to get the message across when all else failed and that's including all the loving environment stuff which most mums do naturally !!!

[pete8242]

yer but cmon ivy babes
there well in their 30 s now
cant you just revoke their pocket money?
or send them to bed with no supper instead now?
lmfao

nah i agree hun a wee smack never done anyone any wrong its just the p.c. brigade trying to make the world a better place even though they dont actually live in the same world as we do

[starstruck]

Originally Posted by PoisonIvy

We're not talking major battering here Pete but I personally don't think the odd smack to be that bad. Not that I needed to smack my sons hardly ever. But on the rare occasion a slap on the bottom was enough to get the message across when all else failed and that's including all the loving environment stuff which most mums do naturally !!!

Ooooops ...so battering mine with a piece of 3 by 2 was not a good idea then

I said when all else failed Pete !!! And that included

stopping them watching their favourite tv programmes
stopping them watching tv for a week
stopping them having any of their favourite snacks - didn't do sweets anyway
sending them to their room for a short period of time
not allowing their friends round for a day or two

the list is endless of all the things you can 'withhold' and most of the time, these things worked, but as I said when all else failed !!!

If we're going to discuss this topic properly folks please remember not to confuse 'smacking' with literally doing a child harm which is how such topics tend to go. Abuse and injuring a child is not what I'm chatting about here - just the odd smack - yey or nay basically !

I think that the best way for this is the norty step, smackin a kid will just incourage them to do it again. They will learn not to do the things they do on the norty step.

Wot on earth is the norty step? Somewhere you tell a child to go and stand?